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Brownies, Sippy cups, and Grace

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Yes, I had a brownie for breakfast yesterday.

Yes, I found an old milk sippy-cup  stuck in the toy box that I didn’t DARE open last week!

Yes, I “should” be doing this or that, and I “should” be eating this or that and I “should” acting this or that way – but you know what?

The “shoulds” of life will about wear you out.  

I’m going to challenge us all to stop saying those “should” statements and instead – say this:  “I did the best I could, and IT’S OKAY!”. 

If you are like most women – we continually feel this need to have it all together, have our kids have it all together, always clean out sippy cups after use so they don’t rot, and have the perfectly healthy foods for ourselves and our families.  Plus, most of us struggle to show weakness, and after awhile, this type of living just can’t be maintained!

We all do it.  We all try to measure up to a standard that we can’t reach.  We all try to justify ourselves when we don’t quite get there, and we all forget about the amazing thing called GRACE!!!!  When is the last time you said to yourself… “it’s okay!”?

Let’s talk about that brownie I ate for breakfast the other day…

It is time that we all need to realize something very important in regard to our health and nutrition:  It is not the treats or the extremes, but the everyday habits that make our lives.  This is a powerful statement because we tend to focus on extremes and beat ourselves up over the extra circumstances, when it is really about the day in and day out way that we live.  Are we making good choices most of the time?  Are we doing better today than yesterday?  Are we having GRACE on ourselves?

What if I told you to go eat some a brownie right now?  It may make you happy, relieved, or you may wonder if I have lost my mind.


BUT  – I will tell you something – that brownie CAN BE the key to our freedom.  You know why many people fail at weight loss or at their goals of getting into shape?  It is not for lack of knowledge, will-power, or ability, it is for lack of freedom.

The moment we tell ourselves we can’t have some food…a brownie for instance…guess what we want?  BROWNIES  and lots of them 🙂  You know why?  Because that is bondage to rules that are almost impossible to follow.   Moderation and focus lead to balance and freedom.  The words “it’s okay” are powerful!!!  Legalize all foods and eat things in moderation and this will make a huge difference in our health.


For years, I would hide what I was eating, binge, hide, diet, beat myself up, binge some more, and promise to NEVER eat “X” again.  That was until the next time I felt stressed, bored, lonely, you name it.  It never worked.  It was a vicious cycle.  A cycle that I hated to be in, and that I hate to see others in as well.  It is hard.  When I finally realized it wasn’t about the food – but it was about an emotional/mental issue for me, things started to improve.

So, if you can relate to what I am saying, please know that I have been there.  Stop making it about the food.  Stop coming up with new “food rules.”  Instead, I beg for you to find out what it is that is “eating” you….deep in your soul.  That is the only true way to find the freedom that we all can have in this area of food.  You notice, I said, “freedom” and I didn’t say “perfection”.  That is a big distinction.

I have found when it comes to food, that until we live out GRACE on ourselves, we will never truly be FREE.  I developed our “Listen and Lose” program in P31 Fitness precisely for this reason.  Stop with the impossible rules.  Stop with the beating yourself up mentality.  Stop with the perfectionistic diets.  STOP.  Breathe.  Listen.  Relax.  It’s OKAY!



Now – onto the “super-mom” syndrome someone decided we should all try to follow.  We can’t possibly have it all together as a mom.  We can try, we can do our best, but if our kids aren’t perfectly cleaned, or perfectly dressed, or they throw a big fit in the middle of Walmart…guess what?  It’s OKAY!!  It’s REAL.  It’s LIFE.  And it is not a reflection of the quality of mom that you are!!  Stop saying…”I should do this with my kids, or I should do that..” – Just do the best you can each day and LOVE those kiddos!!!


All of this is tied in really closely to us understanding our worth.  NEWSFLASH – Our Worth is not tied to a number on the scale or a dress size or what we do or don’t do.  Instead, worth is tied to their inner self.  Our hearts.  Our ability to accept ourselves the way we are!  Stop saying “should”.

Instead – say these words…“I will hold myself to a standard of grace and not perfection.”

Some days just are tough.  Some days don’t go as you expect.  Some days you find yourself not acting and doing the things you would like to do.  Some days you eat the brownie.  And you know what?  It is OKAY!!!  It is!!

Yes, that Brownie was really good.

Yes, I find occasional rotten sippy cups.

Yes, I have reacted poorly to people and situations this week.

Could I/should I have done better?  Absolutely – but you know what?

It’s OKAY! It’s OKAY!

The big deal is to move on, start over, ask forgiveness when we hurt others, and accept the grace that allows us to be human, and not to be perfect.

I hope you will stop saying “should” and start saying “It’s okay”.  I promise peace will wash over you as you do!!

Don’t use laundry soap in a dishwasher!

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Yes, this is what I found last night when I started smelling something odd coming from the kitchen. I opened up the steaming hot dishwasher to find suds everywhere and water leaking out on the floor!

My husband walks in and says – what did you put in there?  I (innocently of course) say – nothing different!!  Then it hits me!!  My 2 year old LOVES to put the soap pod in the dishwasher for me!  Well, she had bounced in the kitchen earlier in the afternoon and said “Mommy – me help” and points to the dishwasher.  She opens it, and puts in the pod, and I close it thinking to myself….I’ll just be able to load the dishes after dinner and not have to put in soap!  Great!

So, after dinner, I do just that…load up the dishes, close it up and push start.  Not even thinking twice OR remembering that the pod she put in looked very much like my laundry soap pods.  Maybe it’s the having 4 little kids that made my brain not really function right – or maybe I’m just trying to make an excuse 🙂

Regardless…it happened.  Suds EVERYWHERE!!!  And you can’t add more water, or it will just make more suds!!  So, I decided to let it sit until all the bubbles went down, and then run the rinse cycle only. However, the smell was not your typical clean dishes smell – it smelled like TIDE!!

I had to just laugh because it hit me – I can definitely relate this to my own life!!

How many times have I tried to “clean up” my life – but I have used the wrong cleaning agent?  What I mean is…how many times have we as humans knew that something was missing…and yet we tried to fill that missing hole with the WRONG thing?

We all have this need inside our soul.  A need to be loved, to feel cherished, to feel valued…and yet we often seek to have those needs fulfilled with the wrong things!

Or, when it comes to health and nutrition, we try to “fix” our health issues with lots of external “bandaid” solutions, that don’t really get to the heart of the matter.

Just like me putting laundry soap in the dishwasher, and it not working right – we all try to “diet” and get disappointed when we don’t turn out to be a size 4 supermodel.  We then try to “fix” it – but we find it only makes things worse.  We then end up in an endless cycle of diets and frustration. So, rather than really getting to the bottom of the issue or our health issues or weight problems, we just try yet another quick fix or solution.   What we find, is the “suds” just keep bubbling up everywhere!

So, I challenge us all tonight to RINSE clean of whatever things we have tried with the intent of “fix ourselves” superficially, and let’s stop!!  Stop the endless cycle, and ask ourselves the tough questions:

  • Is my health or weight issue really a deeper emotional need I am trying to fill?
  • Have I been looking to diets to save me?
  • Am I in a mess of suds and bubbles, but I keep trying and trying things that just aren’t working?
  • Am I getting to the heart of the matter?

We all have to get to the point where we realize that we can’t wash our dishes with a Tide laundry pod.  We have to clean out our hearts and souls and really get to the bottom of why we are the way we are.  THEN we have to have the courage to really find the soap that is right.

So, no matter where you are along this journey, ask the tough questions, acknowledge the things that need attention, make the effort to find the correct cleaning agent, and you fill that hole in your soul!

Let us always remember that ultimately, the soap that can really fix us is relying on the ONE that knows exactly what we need.

Once we can do this, we will find that the endless hole we feel will finally get filled and we can walk in freedom!!



The baggage we carry…

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Have you ever felt weighed down in life?  Maybe you aren’t even really sure why, but you often feel you are just carrying around a lot of extra baggage in your life!  Well, I encourage you to read this article, for some encouragement today!

I recently went on a quick trip up to Wisconsin to work with the new P31 Fitness class there.  This was one of those trips where you are trying to keep everything in the carry on bag – so as not to have to pay the check in bag fee.

As I was packing, and stuffing those carry on bags full (yes I said bags, and not bag), I realized that I probably should reconsider my plan based on the weight and size of my bags!  I kept thinking, SURELY the items will fit in the overhead compartments and I won’t hit too many people walking down the airplane aisle as I make my way to my seat!   🙂

So, I show up at the airport, rolling a bag, carrying a large “purse” (that really was just another excuse for a bag to stuff more items in), and then I complete it with carrying my tennis shoes, book, and snacks.  I definitely was feeling like I was breaking the “TWO SMALL CARRY ON” rule.  But – I did not want to pay more money to check those bags on the Delta flight to Wisconsin!!

DFW airport is huge, and so here I am lugging these 2 “small bags” through the airport, through security, to the snack store to somehow get my coffee, and finally to the gate to wait for the flight.  It was awkward to carry all of that, and those bags started to get REALLY heavy!!  It was at the moment that I look over and see a lady walk in and sit down with ONLY her cell phone in hand, that I started getting envious.  Yes, envious over this free lady with no bags.  Imagine that!!!  I caught myself starring at her thinking – HOW DID SHE DO IT?  And more importantly – WHY didn’t I do that and just check these bags?!?

As I watch more and more people arriving at the gate, I start to get nervous.  You see, my ticket is in the back of the plane.  Normally I like that.  I like to sit at the back, and I like to sit by myself and just dream, or read, or rest.  But today – I started feeling this anxiety rise up in my chest.  I can just envision my long walk down the skinny aisle with not one carry on, but two carry ons…plus my little “extra” items.  I envision me having to apologize for whacking people accidentally, and then once getting to my seat – there probably won’t be any space left in my overhead compartment.  Oh dear.  This will not be good.

Then I look over at this free lady with no bags, and again – wish I was her!!

So, it is time to board, and the BEST thing happens to me, and I am saved from all my fears!!!!  As I walk down the gateway, there are men standing there with pink tickets to hand out in exchange for taking your bag down below during the flight!!  Since the flight is full, they are offering to pink tag the bags and check them right there for pick up after we land.  I am SO EXCITED (it doesn’t take much for me) – because now, I don’t have to try to lug my bags down the aisle and risk hurting someone with all my extra stuff as I walk by them!

The man handing out the pink ticket probably thought I was nuts, because I don’t just hand him my bag – I say  -“oh yes, PLEASE take these bags from me!!”.

Well, the good news is that on the way home, I only had one bag.  I was able to leave my other items with the lady in Wisconsin for P31 Fitness.  Needless to say, it was a much better experience.  I carried a real size carry on, and even at that, I found the pink tag men again on the gateway.  NOW, guess what – I get to walk on the plane home carrying ONLY my book and water.  WOW – what a difference!!!

Now, you may wonder what all of this has to do with nutrition, health, and you today?

EVERYTHING!!!  How much “extra” baggage are you carrying around?  Maybe not even physically, but how about emotionally, mentally, and even spiritually?  Baggage is anything that tends to drag us down, or feel healthy, or things that we feel burdened by in our daily lives.  We all have those things!!

  • Do you find yourself feeling guilty for not being this or that?  Baggage.
  • Do you find yourself not meeting other people’s expectations and feeling like a failure?  Baggage.
  • Do you find yourself beating yourself up for past mistakes?  Baggage.
  • Do you find yourself beating yourself up over your food choices, or lack of “good healthy” decisions in your life?  Baggage.
  • Do you find yourself carrying around the emotional burdens of others? Baggage.
  • Do you find yourself comparing yourself to others and never feeling like you measure up?  Baggage.

Yes, Yes, and Yes….we all do and we all have this baggage in our lives.

How GREAT would it feel just to drop off that baggage at with the man with the pink tag?  How good would it feel to be free from the extra weight we carry, and to just be US?  Real, raw, and free?

It would feel amazing!!! But what I have found over the years both with myself and others, is that we tend to hold onto that extra baggage for many reasons.  A few to name here:

  • We hold tight to our baggage because it is comfortable.
  • We hold tight to our baggage because it is what we know.
  • We hold tight to our baggage because we have a fear of what is on the other side.
  • We hold tight to our baggage sometimes because we don’t even know we are carrying it!
  • We may even hold tight because we have fear of the freedom letting go can bring!
  • Even though it is heavy, uncomfortable, burdensome, we hold on.
  • We may have even let it go, but picked it right back up!! is time that we check that baggage in and don’t pick it up again!  

It is time that we realize that we don’t have to carry around the heavy burdens any longer.  It is time that we realize that we can give our cares, our burdens, our everything to the one that can carry it and give us FREEDOM!!!  God wants to carry our load.  He wants us to walk in freedom, and he wants us to have peace!!

So, no matter what you are carrying around today.  It is time to let it go.  It is time to acknowledge that the weight of the baggage we carry is TOO MUCH for us to carry alone.

God wants to hand us that “pink tag” and take our baggage away.

He wants to let us lean on Him.

He wants to help us with the burdens we face!!

He wants us to have FREEDOM!!!

You can and you will – only through HIM…But you have to learn to let it go and give it to Him today!

It is too heavy to carry alone!!  Hand it off and get your “pink tag of freedom” in return!

–Rachel Curtis

Founder, P31 Fitness



The Carnival ride

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carnival ride

It is interesting that on a week that we are focusing on PEACE, that the Curtis family decides to go to the small town carnival.  We pull up, I see kiddie rides, I get the kids their arm band, and expect to stand and watch them go round and round.

That is until my sweet 4 year old Jaxon decides that he needs to ride the one big kid ride out there.

Now, Madison (6 years old) is big enough to go without an adult, but Jaxon has to have my husband or I with him.  I look at my husband – give him the nudge, he nudges me back, and then Jaxon says to me – “mommy, please ride with me!”.

Now, a few years ago – I would have said – no big deal – YES, I will go with you.  But as I looked up at this rickety carnival ride, that has been traveling across TX in a TRUCK, and is spinning in little cars while going up and down and all around, I start to have some serious doubts! Here is this little 4 year old with bright eyes, ready to go…and I start to really wish my husband had been the lucky pick.

But, how can you resist a little boy?!?  So, I decide to go for it!!

We get into this metal car that about pinches my legs off and the carnival man says – “now, your only job is to make sure that your son doesn’t fall out”.  Really?!?!? What is that about?

So, we start and I am making the most of it…I am “woohooing” and laughing, and it is great….until he speeds us up.  Now, since I weigh about 3 times what Jaxon ways, our cart was lopsided…sending us spinning and spinning super fast.  We are spinning, the ride is spinning, the carts are going up and down and then we LURCH up and him and I bounce off of our seats.  I really thought we were about to fly out of that secure little metal car.

Oh – did I mention that the ride did NOT even have seat belts?!?  Yikes!

I scream, he laughs, and I felt my heart about bounce out of my chest.  When I realize we are all okay, the fear leaves, and I do my best to enjoy the rest of the ride.

When I got off, and my husband is just grinning.  You know that grin that is like – “I’m glad it was you and not me” type of grin?

So, after I stopped shaking, I realized what a funny coincidence that our focus was on PEACE this past week. I was anything but peaceful.  Not before, not during, and not after!!!

It made me realize how much I let my outside circumstances control the level of peace inside of me! Let’s be real for a minute – doesn’t your life feel like a carnival ride sometimes?!?  Can I get an amen?

I am sure you can relate!!!  Do you ever look at your life, and feel anything EXCEPT peace?  Probably!!

So, as we left the carnival, and I watch my kids with BIG smiles, and fired up about all they got to do, I realized that sometimes peace doesn’t mean everything is always ok in our minds.

What it meant that night to me, was that everything didn’t have to be in control.  That everything could feel chaotic and scary, but that I could follow my 4 year olds’ example and TRUST.  That I could have a little fear, and make it through!!!


So, no matter where you are in life, or what “ride” you may feel you are on – remember that GOD is holding you.  He can ease your fears and your panic.  He can make it okay!!  We just have to trust HIM through the carnival ride!!!  

–Rachel Curtis

Founder, P31 Fitness

Grace Grace Grace

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Have you ever messed up?  Like really messed up?  Or maybe just something that you were embarrassed about, and beat yourself up about for hours or days or months…. Yes….sadly we all have done so.  On the flip side – do we hold ourselves to a standard of grace?

Or ….have you found yourself justifying yourself or your actions when you didn’t even need to do so?

I heard it the other day in regard to food…my friend was handing her kids some snack and looked at me and said – “we normally don’t eat pop tarts, but I am letting them today”.  It was like she thought I was judging her or thinking that I couldn’t believe she was feeding them that.

I QUICKLY eased her fears and told her my kids had pop tarts for breakfast that day 🙂

A powerful verse in the bible – “Romans 12:1 – In view of God’s MERCY, offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to Him.  This is your spiritual act of worship.”  WOW!! Did you catch all of that? God has mercy and grace on us…AND us taking care of our bodies and offering them to Him is actually a spiritual act!! So..self care and grace on yourself DOES matter!!

Now..back to the beating ourselves up…. We all do it.  We all try to measure up to a standard that we can’t reach.  We all try to justify ourselves when we don’t quite get there, and we all forget about the amazing thing called GRACE!!!!  When is the last time you said to yourself… “it’s okay!”?

Let’s talk about food for a minute.

What if I told you to go eat some chocolate right now?  It may make you happy, relieved, or wonder if I have lost my mind.  BUT it is also the key to our freedom.  You know why many people fail at weight loss or at their goals of getting into shape?  It is not for lack of knowledge, will-power, or ability, it is for lack of freedom.

The moment we tell ourselves we can’t have some food…chocolate for instance…guess what we want?  CHOCOLATE and lots of it 🙂  You know why?  Because that is bondage to rules that are almost impossible to follow.   Moderation and focus lead to balance and freedom.  The words “it’s okay” are powerful!!!

It is time that we all need to realize something very important in regards to our health and nutrition:  It is not the treats or the extremes, but the everyday habits that make our lives.  This is a powerful statement because we tend to focus on extremes and beat ourselves up over the extra circumstances, when it is really about the day in and day out way that we live.  Are we making good choices most of the time?  Are we doing better today than yesterday?  Are we having GRACE on ourselves?

Are we experiencing true FREEDOM as God has given to us each day?  Legalizing foods and eating things in moderation will make a huge difference in our health.  One (or two) piece of chocolate will not make us fat!  However, lots of chocolate every day will have very negative impacts on our health!  

So, we need a new approach!!

I have dedicated my life to helping women understand their worth is not tied to a number on the scale or a dress size.  Instead, worth is tied to their inner self.  Our outer self, weight, self-esteem, is all based on how we feel about ourself on the inside.  What we feel about ourselves shows on the outside.  Every time.

So, I ask this question:  Do you love yourself?  Do you feel that you are WORTH IT?  God tells us every day that we are worth it  – and it is our job to believe that with our whole heart.  MOST IMPORTANTLY – do you really understand that God has tremendous GRACE on us each day?

If you don’t feel worth it, may I ask why? What in your past has caused you to feel unworthy?  A person, a circumstance? I know for me it is often my own thoughts.  They come in when I least expect them, and they try to take over my daily life.  Maybe it it doubt, fear, or a self-confidence issue.  Whatever it is, I know that they have the power to make me feel unworthy in a heart beat.  When this happens, my daily goal is to stop those thoughts in their tracks and remind myself of what GOD has said about me.

HE SAYS WE ARE WORTH IT!  And He always speaks truth. 

So, what does all of this have to do with Grace?  EVERYTHING!  In order to be balanced and healthy in life, and experience true freedom, we have to place our foundation on God and the grace He provides.  When He is our center, our balance will fall into place.  He wants for us to experience freedom unlike we have ever known.  But we must come to Him for that freedom and GRACE!


You are enough

–Rachel Curtis

Founder, P31 Fitness

Freedom from the dreaded scale! The fence and candy bars!

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Have you ever felt this way?  If you are a woman….you have!  The scale can be a dreaded thing for sure!  It can even lead to bondage in our lives!!

We recently moved out to the country and our two lab puppies, (thank you Santa) taught me a HUGE lesson in regard to food, weight, the scale and more!  I just had to pass this along.

We previously lived in a neighborhood with a high wooden fence.  Our dogs would get so excited when the gate would get opened…why?  Because they could escape the bondage of the wooden fence and run FREE!  But where the lesson comes in, and what is so funny to me, is that they would sprint out that gate, run around for awhile, we would chase them, call them, and eventually give up.  But guess what, as soon as we stopped playing their game and let them be, they would eventually come back into the fence.  So why did they run out of the fence at the first chance?  Why did they keep running when we were trying to contain them?  It is all about the boundaries and what they couldn’t have!

It got me thinking long and hard about our own lives with food, weight, scales, and our health.  I have a theory that the reason that diets don’t work is because we tend to focus on all of the things that we can’t have.  When we are on a diet, we often obsess, look at the “do not eat” food list, feel deprived, and honestly, feel a bit trapped.

Just like our dogs with the fence, we CRAVE freedom.  When we try to go on a diet, we often feel trapped inside of our own fence.  We are told what we can and can’t have on a diet, and at first it sounds good, but eventually, we want out!!  We want to escape the fence and run free.  That usually comes in the form of “cheating” or giving up.  We get outside of the fence and feel like we can’t control ourselves in the area of food.  We go crazy for a few hours, days, weeks, and then we get on the scale and think…OH NO!!!!

So, we walk ourselves back into the fence to try to “diet” again.

Well, we have moved out to the country, and there is not a fence here at all.  We live on some acreage and our puppies are here with us.  Guess what?  They don’t run away, they don’t run crazy, they stay close to us and are actually much more calm.  Why?  Because there isn’t a fence!!

So, are you staring to see how the fences and diets we put in our lives can often lead to more bondage?  Can you start to see why often diets don’t work?  Can you start to understand why we crave freedom in the area of food?

I want to challenge you today to live outside of the fence and NOT run around crazy.

I want to challenge you today to start to “legalize” foods that you previously had on your “don’t eat” list.

I want to challenge you today to eat a little something that you previously “couldn’t” or “shouldn’t.

I want to challenge you today to start to connect your emotional state with what you eat or what you want to eat.  You will be surprised at how these 2 usually go hand in hand.

I want to challenge you today to eat a candy bar if that is something that sounds good to you.

What? The founder of P31 Fitness is telling you to eat a candy bar?  YES!  Why? Have you ever said you were not going to eat a candy bar….and then what is the only thing you wanted??….The candy bar!!!

In P31 Fitness, we teach a system called Listen and Lose. We teach you to check your emotions. We teach you to be cautious of crazy diets and anything that causes you to get consumed with calorie counting, tracking, or restrictive eating.

Remember, the more restrictions we place on ourselves, the more bondage we often feel, and often the more opportunity we are giving ourselves to break those “rules”.


So, I want to tell you something very important today: 

  • Give yourself some grace today and have a small treat. That small treat will probably “do the trick” for you and allow you to legalize that food.
  • When we start to legalize all foods, we realize that the emotional pull to eat it, will start to go away!
  • We start to be able to escape our fence boundaries, and not feel that we have to be crazy and eat everything in site.
  • We start to live in freedom in this area of food, weight, and the scale! We start to LIVE instead of just survive.
  • We start to feel our worth isn’t determined by a number on a scale, but instead on WHO we are in Christ!!

You are worth it ladies!! You can do this!!!!

–Rachel Curtis

Founder, P31 Fitness

My pleasure…and how may I serve you?

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The kids and I went to Chic fil a yesterday, and just like EVERY other time we have gone there, the young employee at the cash registers says to us…”how may I serve you?”.  Then – when they handed us our food, just like EVERY other time, they say “my pleasure”.

Every time you walk in the doors of Chic fil a – no matter what town, what location, what time – you will get the same kind, gracious service.  Isn’t that amazing?  And they truly seem to mean it!! That is what gets me!

It got me thinking about our focus this week – having a servant heart.  When someone needs something from me – do I willingly say…”my pleasure” and then do I REALLY mean it?   Or, do I take the initiative to ask people – “how may I serve you today”?  When we ask this question, following up with a pure servant heart is important.   I also believe it is powerful to PRAY to have the eyes that God has, to see others as He sees, and that we see the needs of others even BEFORE we need to ask.  I also try to pray that we have His hands, and feet to go with those eyes to put into action fulfilling the needs before us.

To me, having a servant heart is something that is a very attractive quality in others.  People with a servant heart are like magnets.  Others want to be around them and want are drawn to them in a way.  Why? Because being around people with a servant heart makes them feel wanted, loved, and valued.

For ourselves, having a servant heart causes us all to reach out to others and find ways to serve.  A focus word that pushes us outside of our box a bit in order to help fulfill the needs of those around us.  A focus that changes our heart and our mind to serve and love.  But with that, sometimes the selfish part of us wants to serve and then also be thanked.  Or we sometimes serve, and want to be noticed.  The problem with both of those ways of thinking is that they are flawed!  We can’t serve to be noticed or thanked – we need to serve for the joy of serving.

I can remember when I was little, my dad always said to me that when we serve others without them knowing it was us, it was like getting our stars on our crown in heaven.  That stuck with me, and I think of that often.  When we serve and no one notices, or acknowledges us, it is OKAY and in fact – usually better!!

So, I challenge us this week and always, with two things, as we focus on having a servant heart:

  1. May we ask the question often:  “How may I serve you?”  to those in our lives each day.  When we ask, may we ask in a way that we truly mean the words and follow them with action! Even looking for these ways without asking, is HUGE!
  2. When we get thanked for service, that we can say “My Pleasure” easily and mean it!
  3. That we are continually striving to earn those stars in our crown, that no one may see.

Servant heart isn’t about status or recognition, it is about love from the heart in finding others’ needs and doing our best to fulfill them with the Love of God!

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Contentment, Facebook, and the never ending BUSY

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So, I got to thinking today.  Why are we not always content?  Why do we as women struggle with this area so much?

Take this for instance, have you ever logged onto Facebook and started your day feeling pretty good, but after a few scrolls through FB you are feeling very dis-content?

You can’t always put your finger on just WHAT you saw that made you feel the way you now feel, but you feel it.  You feel not good enough, not fun enough, not ____ enough.

It’s funny what social media as a whole has done to society and we don’t even realize it!  There was even a study that showed people are less and less content since the addition of social media.  Stop and think about it a minute and I think we can all agree!  I am not saying FB is wrong in any way.  I think it has a great place in society, but I do also believe it has had a negative impact on women and their level of contentment.  Check out your mood before and after your daily FB scroll!

What I finally realized was that FB was causing these yucky issues in me!  I have found that I need to be careful!  There have been times I have looked through things and just left feeling like I wasn’t doing enough, good enough or ….you name it!  So, as Facebook is such a fun place to communicate, market, connect and see what is going on in each other’s lives, we should just be cautious of what it might be doing to your level of contentment!  It is just social media tool, and we need to not let it get in our hearts in a negative way!


Or how about this – you see someone and the first thing they say when you ask them how they are…they say, “I am SO BUSY!”….It is almost as if we have started to glorify the word BUSY.  Been there?  Have you ever been busy and not even known why?

Busy running kids places.

Busy with activities at church, school, etc

Busy with work.

Busy with life.

And somehow, we have come to a place that we think that is a good thing!

WHY?  Why are we all so busy?  Is it healthy?  Is it the way to contentment?  I don’t think so!  In fact, I once heard that BUSY stands for Being Under Satan’s Yoke.  Yikes!!!   Isn’t that acronym semi-true?  The more busy we are, the less time we have to focus on what is really important!

Sometimes I have even been busy just to be busy!  Not wanting to deal with certain emotions or feelings, and so I just get busy doing something else…all to avoid!

So, the level of BUSY in our lives….just another place to check ourselves and our level of contentment!

Lastly – Are we okay?  Can we SAY we are okay? If we all stopped and were still, would we be content?  I challenge us all today to stop the busy, stop the FB comparing, stop the dis-contentment and just BE.

Say the words…”It’s okay” and you will just feel the freedom that those words alone can bring.  YOU are okay.  YOU are enough.  We don’t have to be everything.  We don’t have to have everything, we don’t have to live up to everything.  No, in fact, we CAN just be okay and we can be contentment….when it all starts within!

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The funny thing about diets…

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Sound familiar?? Been there?  Probably too close to home to all of us who have tried to go on a diet!

Or how about this one….try this proclamation of a 21 day fix and see how you do?  Have you ever said something like this to yourself?

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How did you do on this?  Did it work?

Or….on day 2 or 3, did you start to have a bite of this or a bite of that and before you knew it….the “diet” was over, and you once again, called yourself a “failure” at all diets!?  Then you just gave up?

Well, MOST women out there have the all or nothing approach.  You are not alone.

Either you are 100% in at healthy healthy living..OR you are 100% out of all of that -ha!!

So, why do we continue to look for the latest fix?  Why do we continue to think that the latest 21 or 30 day challenge will actually fix us?

*Note – I do not feel that there is anything wrong with a these type of challenges in and of themselves – but the expectations we have for these is where we get ourselves in trouble.  Even more so, what it can do to us mentally is where I see the bigger issue.

So, what happens if you start one of these, tell everyone you are doing it and then you can’t seem to complete it?  What then?  Are you feeling good about yourself?

What if you “cheat” on your diet?  How do you feel about yourself then?

Do any of these feelings build us up?  Are these feelings or actions healthy for you?

What about the comparison it brings into our lives with other women?  “Oh Suzie Q always seems to be able to eat right, finish a challenge, etc, etc, etc.”  Have you found yourself saying that?  Is that healthy?

NO!!! It is not healthy.  It is not healthy for our physical, mental, spiritual or emotional health..not at all.

So, as you are reading this, I challenge us all to stop this type of all or none thinking.  I challenge us to stop looking for the latest fix.  I challenge us to be OKAY with who we are and to start looking for the “fix” inside of ourselves.

No 21 or 30 day challenge will fix an emotional problem.  Dig deeper…Address the inside first and you will soon find that the outside will take care of itself.

Experience the freedom the Christ brings into our lives when we acknowledge that our worth is not dependent on the size of our dress or the number on our scale.

Our worth is dependent on WHO we are in Him alone!!  THAT is the BEST fix we can find!!

Enjoy this truth!

–Rachel Curtis

P31 Fitness Founder


Be REAL: Get to the good stuff

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real and perfectI was at a park with my kids one day last week, and as we often do, we found DIRT and SAND to get our hands and feet into that day!  As we laughed and played and dug and sat, I had some thoughts about life.

It was a sunny day, and at that point in the week, we hadn’t had much rain yet.  So, in this huge sandpit, we struggled to build anything.  The kids asked why, and it was because the sand was too dry.  So, I had Madison grab me a stick, and I told them to come watch.  I took that stick and I started digging and digging, and soon what I found was the WET SAND.  I called the kids over to show them.  They weren’t too thrilled – but I was.  Knowing that THIS type of sand…the wet sand…we could do something with and start to build some castles or shapes, or at least a mound (since that would be about the extent of my building skills).


As I started molding this new wet sand, Jaxon asked where I found it?  I told him “It’s under there, you just have to dig buddy!  Here is a stick – you try it!”  So the 3 kids and I sat there and got all kinds of wet sand to play with.  We buried each other in the sand, made sand diapers (remember those?)  and tried to build a few mountains and castles.

The more I thought about it, the more I realized that this sand pit is much like us as human beings!!  Just like sand, often with us, the outside layer is more of a protective mechanism to what is deeper on the inside.  Sometimes the outside layer doesn’t really show what is buried underneath.  Sometimes the outside layer doesn’t really “work” to build things of a strong foundation.  Sometimes we have to dig a bit deeper to find the good stuff and the REAL stuff.  The deeper “sand” is what works in our lives and what can build true strength in our lives!

As humans, when we walk around pretending to be something we are not, or pretending to have it all together, sooner or later, the REAL us will come to the surface.

So, why do we do this?  Why do we create a “protective layer” on the outside from what is really underneath?

The sand brought me to challenge myself, and to write this for others to also challenge themselves to make sure that our outside, matches what is on the inside.

When we are real on the outside, and when we truly work to have integrity of soul to just BE who we are (flaws and all) – that is when we can find true freedom.

We are all tired of walking around trying to “be” who we THINK the world wants us to be.  Instead, what God wants us to be is JUST US and that is always enough.  So I challenge us today to BE REAL.  To understand that the really good stuff about ourselves and others may require a bit of digging, but that over time, hopefully we can start to match the inside with the outside.

Hopefully over time, if enough of us are working to be REAL each day, and challenging each other to be real that we can all walk around with a bit more depth of life.

So today – go dig deep in our own soul, and let that “deeper sand” be shown on the outside…because WHO YOU REALLY ARE is ALWAYS ENOUGH!!

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–Rachel Curtis, Founder