Why is it important that we take care of ourselves? Does it really matter?
- I realized I couldn’t fix my food problem with food.
- I needed to LOOK UP!
- I needed to look elsewhere.
- I needed to look at my emotional connection to what food was doing for me.
- I needed a DIFFERENT solution.
- I would ask myself things like:
- What is this food doing for me?
- How is this food I am about to eat going to make me feel?
- If I eat one of these (or 10) – will I feel guilt in an hour?
- WHY am I wanting to stuff my face at this moment?
- What is really going on that is driving me to want to eat the whole pantry and fridge and anything else I can find?
We can be the same in a year, or better – it is our decision! We need to look for a new solution. A solution NOT involving food!!
Tonight I watched my little girl try to put on my husband’s boots. A cute and precious moment that quickly turned into a moment of frustration for her! She would get one on, and then try to figure out how to lift her other foot high enough to get it in the other boot.
Then, she would attempt to lift her foot up and that would cause her to fall. She started crying in frustration. Now, before you think I am some bad mom watching this without helping, I wanted to see how this 19 month old would handle this situation. Next, she decided to get back up and this time she set up the boots, scooted them over to the wall, grabbed onto the wall, and figured out how to get the boots on correctly. Perseverance. Now to attempt to walk.
She shuffled a few steps before falling yet again, and then she tried to get up. Finally, she had had enough. She got her feet out of the boots, she looked up at her daddy and I (who were watching her), and she RAN into her daddy’s arms! It was like she felt so much freedom in her own feet.
This all got me thinking about how so many times we try to fit into someone else’s shoes (or boots). We often step out of our own nice fitting shoes and we attempt to MAKE our feet fit somewhere else. Somewhere they were never intended to fit. We try, we push, we shove, we fall, and many times we keep up this pattern over and over again.
Do we ever do this? Do we often try so hard to be like someone else or have what some has, that we end up in a heap of frustration? Or maybe we just want to be different than we are. Why? Why do we sometimes go there? Well… I think sometimes it is a lack of contentment that drives us to try to fit into another’s shoes, another’s job, another’s personality, another’s life. Maybe we think that by trying on another’s “life” or a different life, that we will magically gain more peace with our current situation.
The problem with this thinking is that it is false. Getting into someone else’s boots almost always leads to tears, frustration, and maybe even a fall or two.
We need to get our feet out of the boots of others around us, and run free on our very own feet.
We need to stop trying to not be ourselves, and start appreciating the person we are!
We need to get back to finding out who we are, and being content with that person…all parts of her!
We need to be thankful for the boots we have, that fit us well, and wear those with confidence.
We need to remember that God made each of us unique and special. From our personalities, to our appearances, to our situations…He is right in the center of it all. He made us, and He loves us. When we can start to acknowledge and appreciate that fact, we will stop trying to wear another person’s boots. Hopefully this means we will not fall quite as often, not get quite as frustrated with how things may be in our lives, and hopefully, we will run this life with a bit more peace and freedom!!
Thankful for my sweet Reagan so vividly showing me this lesson today!!
Our boots fit us for a reason. May we wear them with contentment and thankfulness today!
Yesterday was a perfect day to play in the mud. It had rained all morning, and the dirt was ready to jump in, get stuck in, and get nice and dirty in! My kids LOVE to play in the mud. The good part about the mud (for kids), is that it is fun, sticky, and messy. The bad part about the mud, it is dirty, you can often get stuck, and it is messy!
As I stood there and watched them, I couldn’t help to think about how many times I have been “stuck in the mud.”
Sometimes I have chosen to get into the mud by my own doing, but other times I have turned around and found myself in the mud and didn’t even realize it until I was already knee deep. Sometimes it is my own mud, and sometimes it is the mud of the world.
I see the “mud” as the hard times we face. The struggles we go through. The relationship issues that may come up in our lives. The tough things at work. The financial struggles, the parenting struggles, the marriage struggles, or even just a place of emotional turmoil. We. Get. Stuck.
Now if you are like my kids in the mud, you often will try to throw the mud. Sometimes at each other, and sometimes on yourself. You also may push and wrestle and play until you find yourself covered in the mud. Sometimes you stay down in the mud because it just seems easier than the slippery climb of getting up.
Wow – isn’t that life? When we are doing through something, how often do we throw our “mud” on someone else or have their mud thrown on us. I don’t mean intentionally, but we often find ourselves covered in other people’s problems, or we cover others in our own. Maybe we put blame on others that have nothing to do with our situation, but we do it so that we won’t be in the mud alone. Have you ever just sat down in the “mud” and stayed put because that is what you know? Maybe getting out of the mud seems a bit too daunting or unsure? We all do it.
We fear that we will mess up, or slip back in. We fear that we are being judged. We fear there is no grace.
Here is a key factor about this mud. The only way out of the mud is to REACH out. You can’t just try to wiggle out and expect to get very far. You have to get one foot or hand completely out of the mud and onto dry land to gain some traction. You have to decide that you are done playing in the mud, and you are ready to get cleaned up. Sometimes you need help out. Sometimes you need someone to push you out. Sometimes you need someone to pull you out. BUT – Once one foot is on dry land, you have a better chance of taking another step to get your whole body out of the slippery slope.
Now my kids know the next step of getting out of the mud, and that is the cold, freezing, water from the HOSE! They are not going in the house covered in mud, they have to first go through the painful “initial cleaning”. It’s cold and rough, but it does the job. Once they have their first wash down, now they can go into the warm, cozy, sudsy, clean bath inside!!
Getting out of the mud and getting cleaned up is not always pain-free. In fact, it can hurt and be uncomfortable. BUT once we are out of the mud and cleaned up a bit, we find that being stuck in the mud is not as fun as we thought.
Whatever your “mud” is today, I challenge you to reach out and step out. You may need pushed out of the mud, or pulled out to get to dry ground. Mud can be fun at first – but we always end up dirty. The cleaning process is not always fun or easy – but when we choose to go a new direction in our life, ask forgiveness, forgive ourselves, then we can stop getting stuck in the mud, and start living again!
Will I let my kids play in the mud again? Absolutely.
Will I get stuck in my own mud again – most likely.
However, each time, I hope that I learn a little bit more about how not to get quite as stuck as the last time! Grace, forgiveness, and reaching out….one day at a time.
–Rachel Curtis, P31 Fitness Founder
“A splinter is a fragment of a larger object (especially wood), or a foreign body that penetrates or is purposely injected into a body. The foreign body must be lodged inside tissue to be considered a splinter. It usually must be removed manually to relieve the pain.”
Yesterday, my 5 year old was swinging on our wooden playground and rubbed his foot on some wood, and got not one, not two, but THREE splinters in his foot!! At first, he was pretty tough about it, but as the day wore on, he was in a lot of pain. We didn’t see the splinters clearly until they were already causing an infection in his foot. Touching anywhere near the splinters sent him crying and grabbing his leg.
I pulled out the tweezers and the hydrogen peroxide and went to work. As soon as he saw those tweezers he panicked and started crying. The first round of this was really for me just to see what we had here. I did a little work, but then eased off, bandaged it up, and let him play some more. Then a few hours later, we went in again. Each time we did this, I was making a little more progress. But it hurt him. So much so that he would just see the tweezers coming, and start crying.
How do you convince a 5 year old that although it hurts now, that this is actually making it better? That once we get through this – the pain will go away?
Finally, at the last attempt, I iced it first (which was also a tough convince) and then went in. I knew that this final time I had enough skin pulled away that I could grab each splinter. I went for the longest one first, so he could see how cool it was that long of things was in his foot!! When I showed him, he got a big smile. Jaxon!! This was IN your foot buddy!! You are SO tough!! Then, I went for the next, a little deeper, but small. He made it through just fine. But lastly, was the one I had been digging on the most. It was deep. I had his sisters talk to him, and I told him to hold his breath, and then I dug one more time and pulled it out!!
It was the biggest splinter I had ever seen!!! And here he had gone the whole day like that!! All because he didn’t want to face the pain of the tweezers.
It got me thinking….how many times do I leave painful things in my life because I don’t want to go through the pain of removing them? Even though I know it will be better once it is gone, it HURTS!! Maybe it’s a habit, maybe it’s a relationship, maybe it’s a situation…whatever it is that is bringing us pain, I often will leave buried in the skin because I don’t want to face getting it out.
So today, my 5 year old gave me the confidence I needed to stop doing some of the things in my life that are causing pain. To stop allowing certain things in my life to cause me pain. To stop accepting painful situations just because it is how it’s always been. He taught me that you can get through it and you can smile on the other side.
How? To look UP. To be STILL and Know that God is in control. To remember that sometimes pain gets us to where we need to be. Lastly – to remember that pain often has a purpose.
Anything that brings humility in our lives, and points us to God…can be good. Even if it hurts.
Thank you Jaxon for teaching your mommy a very important lesson tonight!! I will go start the painful process of removing some splinters from my life today – AND being thankful for the lessons they taught me while they were around. Removing the pain will always be worth it… we just need to see the purpose!!
P31 Fitness Founder
I have this crazy belief….but I think there is a lot of truth to it.
Here it is: I believe that every woman asks the question: “Am I enough?”.
Am I pretty enough?
Am I skinny enough?
Am I smart enough?
Am I good enough?
Am I capable enough?
Am I doing enough?
Am I strong enough?
Am I popular enough?….. on and on
We have all asked these at some point, and sadly, the answers aren’t always a yes!
We find ourselves constantly striving to be more. Striving to be different. Striving to be something that we may never be able to attain.
So why do we continue to strive to be ______ enough?
What I found personally, is that when I actually dove into my own personal struggles and my own “enough” questions, it caused some enormous breakthroughs in my life, my health, and my struggles!! I started to see why I acted the way I do. I started to see why I had the feelings I do. I started to see what made me “tick” the way I do.
A question I found that I was asking myself often was, “am I doing enough?”. So, that explained why I spent my time striving and trying to do and do and be better and better.
I don’t know what your “enough” question may be, but I do know that we have to grasp onto this simple truth…that we are ONLY enough when we realize HE is what makes us enough! God is our strength, our courage, our hope…He makes us enough!!
So, let’s depend on God to fill our “enough” question, and rest in that peaceful fact…because in HIM, we are more than enough!!!
In P31 Fitness, we help you to understand that question a bit more and see yourself as HE sees you!!
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In a world that screams at us…”more more more”, I have this deep desire to be different. This past year, we’ve really been trying to simplify our life and the life we are creating for our kids. From the actual location of where we live, to our day to day lives. It is hard at times. It is not perfect. It makes me feel uneasy sometimes. It is different. But it is peaceful. We are definitely a work in progress, but maybe some of these things will bless you and challenge you as they have me during this new year!!
Less Noise, more Quiet
Less Stuff, more Purpose
Less Stress, more Peace
Less Notifications, more Focus
Less Phone, more play
Less Judgement on self, more Grace
Less Rush, more Calm
Less Busy, more Still
Less Activities, more Time.
Less concern of what others are thinking, more focus on what matters.
Less Facebook, more face to face
Less Comparing, more Gratitude
Less Worrying, more Praying
Less Insecurity, more Trust
Less Clutter, more Space
Less is more. Always will be.
What I am finding is that the more “still” I can make my heart, the more peace I have. The more peace I have, the more I can be kind and gracious to others. It’s a cycle that starts with me!! Less is more.
This all may sound crazy and hard ….and it is, but it’s worth it to slow down, and have less. It’s always more!!